One small box

18 Nov

When your stuff — clothes, shoes, books, photos, vitamins, cookware, small appliances, blankets, pillows, souvenirs — ALL your stuff — has been in boxes for two months you start to forget what you packed in the first place.  You wonder where you’re going to put all that stuff whenever it arrives.  You wonder if you need any of that, anyway.  You start to forget the person who packed all that stuff away.  What did she think she was going to do with it?

Then you open a package mailed to yourself full of things that make you intensely happy and filled with purpose and you remember:  oh, yeah, that stuff.  The stuff that isn’t more important than people or your own innate spirit, but the stuff that … maybe … gives you an anchor to the things that bring out the best in yourself.  The stuff that is a tool you use to create something positive.

Here is some of my stuff:

I don’t only spend my days freaking out about adapting to a new country,  engaging in baking meditation,  chasing children, reading poetry or scare-the-bejeezus fiction (or paranormal urban fantasy), hallucinating about foxes and giant ravens, or, whatever it is I’m doing, drinking cider and eating bon-bons and filling the day up with nonsense.  I’m also a lactation consultantYes, those are breasts.  I am deeply passionate about being present for mothers who are struggling with breastfeeding … through days and nights that are good, bad, awful and amazing, sometimes all at once.  Working in this field is like being a detective, a cheerleader, a dreamer, a giant listening ear, a trapeze artist.  Being a helper along a mother’s journey, getting to be there when something ineffable changes and she and her baby stare at each other in wonder and love, well, that is priceless.  That is something worth doing.

That stuff.  That’s the stuff I just unpacked.


I wasn’t sure about mentioning my ‘other’ life — my professional one — here in this space.  This isn’t a blog about lactation, but it is a blog about finding your way in a new place.  So.  Looking for a blog about lactation?  Try Breastfeeding Reporter, Normal, like Breathing, Nourish Breastfeeding Support, Nurtured Child, Best for Babes, Breastfeeding Arts, Analytical Armadillo [deep breath] and Motherwear Breastfeeding, Uppity Science Chick, Breastfeeding Medicine … that’s just off the top of my head.  Happy reading.


13 Responses to “One small box”

  1. Jeanne November 18, 2011 at 2:16 pm #

    I was lucky enough not to need much help with breastfeeding (partly because I had a mother with me who had done it), but I’m glad there are people who do what you do.

    • Monique November 18, 2011 at 2:42 pm #

      Thanks Jeanne! Family support makes the world of difference for new moms — glad you had it!

  2. Ruth November 18, 2011 at 2:43 pm #

    Monique, what you wrote about your stuff is profound. And of course I’m glad you brought up breastfeeding, too! 🙂

  3. Katy Linda, IBCLC (@Stylin_Momma) November 18, 2011 at 5:10 pm #

    I love your fun, colored breasts, and the pile of books….Glad your ‘stuff’ has started to arrive. Hope that box helps give you some sense of normalcy!

    • Monique November 19, 2011 at 10:31 am #

      Oh Katy, everyone loves my breasts 😉

  4. Ayris November 18, 2011 at 6:54 pm #

    Wonderful! I’m sure before now there were just not enough knitted breasts in England. So glad to hear you’re getting back into your stuff 🙂

    • Monique November 19, 2011 at 10:33 am #

      Hi Ayris! Still busy missing many people and places, but yes, very glad to have books, breasts, and all!

  5. Kristy November 19, 2011 at 9:30 am #

    I thought they were colorful little pumpkins! ha ha! Love this post!

  6. Zazzy November 19, 2011 at 6:16 pm #

    I love your knitted breasts and I love getting to know a little more about you and your passions!

  7. Venus November 21, 2011 at 5:39 pm #

    HOORAY! I’m so glad that’s what you do in your “official” life. 🙂 Lactation consultants (good ones) are god’s gift to mankind. Your knitted breasts in the pic are fantastic. 🙂 You should check out my piece about my “dud” for a good laugh.

    Thanks for sharing the links, as well. 🙂


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